Muhammad Naushad Anjum · 2026-07-20
When people imagine couples therapy, they often picture a referee — someone sitting between two partners, keeping score, deciding who's right. In fifteen years of practice, I've found that's almost never what actually helps.
The couples who make real progress aren't the ones looking for a verdict. They're the ones willing to get curious about the pattern they're stuck in — not just the last argument, but the shape it takes every time.
It's Rarely About the Dishes
A couple might come in because of an argument about chores, or money, or in-laws. But the actual content of the disagreement is almost never the point. Underneath it is usually a question about whether you feel heard, whether you feel like a priority, or whether you can trust your partner to show up for you. Once a couple can name that underlying question together, the surface argument tends to lose its grip.
The Work Happens Between Sessions
Therapy isn't something that happens to a couple for fifty minutes a week — it's a space to practice something you then have to actually try at home. I ask couples to notice, between sessions, the moment right before an argument escalates. That small window is usually where the real choice gets made.
Cultural Context Matters
In Pakistan, and for the many overseas Pakistani couples I work with, relationship difficulties rarely exist in isolation from family expectations, financial pressure, or the balancing act between tradition and the life a couple is actually trying to build together. A good therapist doesn't ignore that context or treat it as the enemy — the work is helping a couple build a relationship that can hold both their own needs and the reality of the families they come from.
What Progress Actually Looks Like
It's rarely dramatic. It's a couple catching themselves mid-argument and choosing to pause. It's one partner asking a genuine question instead of making an accusation. Real change in a relationship is usually quiet and incremental — which is also why it tends to last.
If you and your partner are stuck in a pattern that feels familiar and exhausting, that's usually a sign therapy could help — not because something is broken, but because most couples benefit from an outside perspective on a pattern they're too close to see clearly.
If you and your partner are ready to talk it through, you can book a confidential session with our team or reach out directly on WhatsApp.
About the Author
Muhammad Naushad Anjum
CEO/Lead Psychologist
Muhammad Naushad Anjum is the Founder of Meeting Matters Clinic, established in 2010 with the vision of bringing evidence-based, academically sound, and internationally benchmarked counselling services to Pakistan and Pakistanis abroad. He is a UK and UAE registered psychologist, with an MPhil and MSc in Psychology, and is a member of the European Association for Aviation Psychology. His specialist areas include relationship counselling, couple therapy, and family counselling. Through Meeting Matters, he focuses on selecting, training, and supporting a culturally sensitive team of psychologists who serve clients in Pakistan and overseas through in-person and online therapy. Note: Mr. Naushad has a busy travel schedule and thats why he is mostly available for online sessions. His booking is handled by our Client Facing Team through normal booking lines based on availability.
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